“Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite. Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shared sleep (a desire limited to one woman).”
―     Milan Kundera   “The Unbearable Lightness of Being”  

The Unbearable Lightness of Being – The Official Trailer

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If you read my earlier blogs of Jeremy and Peggy Sue, you know I have yet to write about Maggie. Briefly, Maggie is in a relationship with Jeremy, who is in a relationship with both Maggie and Peggy Sue.

Maggie has begun to trust her instincts that there is someone else in Jeremy’s love life-Peggy Sue. One day, Maggie confronts Jeremy about her suspicions. Jeremy gets angry, avoids the direct questions and overall is annoyed at the confrontation of whether he is lying about being in a relationship with someone else. After many arguments, Maggie finally presents proof that is undeniable. Is this the pivotal moment in their relationship?

Will he tell the truth and admit that he indeed has been carrying on a relationship with someone else? Can he commit to one woman? Can he commit to the responsible life that he says he wants? Can he forgive himself? Can he leave Peggy Sue once and for all? Or will he chance loosing Maggie?

Moreover, will Maggie forgive him?

Generally, the story goes that Jeremy would prefer to be with Maggie. Once the truth is known, healing can begin. But he has fallen from grace and Maggie will take a very long time to forgive, if ever.

The key to the success in this relationship is forgiveness and the belief that their relationship is worth mending and building. Jeremy’s relationship to Maggie transcends the immediacy of his transitory needs that he fulfills with Peggy Sue. His desire to be with Maggie can be said to be of a spiritual nature. The corporeal is not as important as their transcendence as a union. His love for Maggie is constant. He is aware of his need for her: Maggie inspires him.

Maggie knows she is valuable to him, but is he to her? Can she forgive or will someone else come into her life? She doubts and wonders whether his transgressions will be a pattern. It is he who must work hard to keep Maggie in his life; otherwise, the risk is she will move on. The next relationship for her should be a better one since she is the more integrated of the two or should I say three.

This ends this series of love triangles.

 If you haven’t read “The Unbearable Lightness of Being” by Milan Kundera-I highly recommend it. It was also made into a movie, well worth watching. I also recommend the movie “The Red Shoes” (1948) for more clarification on triangles in relationship as discussed in the last three posts.


The Red Shoes, The Choice: The Partner or the Obsession

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